Events will weave themselves throughout our lives, that are out of our control, that we didn't see coming. We get thrown off guard. We get punched in the gut. Our breath is momentarily taken away.
I believe with my whole heart that when this happens we need to be still and do whatever it is we need to do to recover, learn, and grow. This looks different for every single one of us, but we must be gentle with ourselves. We must give ourselves space, hibernation, wine, music, yoga, boxing, therapy, sleep, nourishing food, whatever it looks like, we must give ourselves this time, wherever we can squeeze it in, to unplug, recover, and adjust to a new perspective and create a new path.
This is a time to be kind to ourselves. And hopefully, we have people in our lives who love and respect us and who can support us however we need, whether it's a road trip buddy or a smooth shot of whiskey. I am so lucky to have these people in my life. When I think of a lifetime of ups and downs, the ups and downs we all rise and fall on, at some point, on some level, on this road, I think of my people. I think I must be doing something right to have these kind souls in my life.
Going through the challenges life will inevitably offer us reminds me to be kind and gentle with others, as everyone is going through something, even if it doesn't look like it from the outside or by glancing on their Facebook pages.
I think we all go through challenges so we can learn how to take care of other people's hearts a little better. By lending a shoulder to someone else, our own hearts are healed.
I still think of what my friend once asked me, "Would I trade it all for a different outcome?" My answer is still, "No." I like who I've become and I've needed to take all the roads I have to get here. Take the time to be still and listen.
(painting: Light Cracks Through by Lynette Suchar)